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1 Homosexuality
takes root in Kenya 6/98
2 The "Myth" of
Homosexuality in Kenya Society 6/98
3 Homosexuality and Aids: A double-edged sword by Wanjira Kiama 6/98
4 AIDS
in Kenya: Where Are Kenya's Homosexuals? 8/98
5 Kenya's President jumps on anti-gay bandwagon 10/99
14 Men
Recognised as Rape Victims 3/05
15 United Nations Human Rights Committee Opposes Kenyan Homosexuality
Criminal Law 4/05
16 AIDS Now Compels Africa to Challenge Widows' 'Cleansing'--(Malawi,
Zambia, Kenya) 5/05
17 Being
gay in Kenya 2/06
18 Conference addresses gay issues in Africa 6/06
19 How
Boys are Socialised
20 Health
minister Charity Ngilu: homosexuality
among Coastal youths 12/06
Daily Nation
Nairobi, Kenya
June 24,
1998
1
Homosexuality takes root in Kenya
While sex between men is accepted in few societies, over the past 20 years there has been increasing awareness that it occurs all over the world. Only in sub-Saharan Africa do we still have widespread denial among the authorities that men have sex with other men. However, with increased willingness by researchers to investigate the issue and the emergence of small gay-identified organisations, the subject is gradually coming under scrutiny across the continent. The following report by Wanjira Kiama opens a window on to the lives of Kenyan men who have sex with other men.
What comes across most clearly is the fact that for many of those interviewed the ultimate goal is a strong emotional relationship - love - with another man and that sexual activity is a means of both expressing and searching for that love. This is not to deny that many sexual acts between men in Kenya and elsewhere are no more than a desire for physical relief, but at least partially explains why the desire many men have for other men is so powerful that it overcomes even the strongest taboos. Several points should be noted.
First, the fact that the men interviewed live in Mombasa and Nairobi does not mean that sexual activity between men only takes place in these cities; as in every country, the relative anonymity provided by cities allows greater opportunity for sex between men but men who have, or wish to have, sex with men, are to be found across Kenya and across Africa.
Secondly, the men Kiama interviews are relatively open about their sexual activity and many of them have obviously thought carefully about the conflict between their desires and prevailing Kenyan customs. Others, who are less open about their sexual activity with men, with others or with themselves, are likely to describe their situations differently.
Thirdly, while Kiama's suggestion that sex between men is more tolerated in Mombasa because of Arabic influence may be true, the activity itself occurs irrespective of cultural or tribal influence.
Finally,
it should be noted that because some speakers confuse sexual activity
and sexual
identity, words such as "homosexual" and "gay" are
sometimes used differently here.
Kenya's
first President Jomo Kenyatta, once claimed that there is no African
word for homosexuality.
This proves, he argues, that homosexuality is foreign and totally
unAfrican. According to President Moi, "Kenya has no room or time for homosexuals and lesbians. Homosexuality is against African norms and traditions, and even in religion it is considered a great sin". Kenyatta's and Moi's opinions reflect a disapproval of men who have sex with men that runs broad and deep in Kenyan society. Typical is the attitude of Michael Kariuki, 37, an accountant with a non- governmental HIV/Aids organisation. "Homosexuals
are a menace to society. They should not only be jailed, but the
key to the lock should be thrown away."
When
asked what he would do if he learned that his son was homosexual,
his anger rises: "I would disown him before I cause him grievous harm. I would rather sire a cow than a homosexual. With a cow you get milk, but what possible good or value would come out of a homosexual?" In
Mombasa, on the Coast, there is greater acknowledgement of homosexuality,
but no more acceptance. Men who are believed to have sex with men
are despised, ridiculed, harassed and sometimes beaten and during
political campaigns - emotionally charged periods when people commonly
express deep-seated fears and hatred - often threatened with lynching.
Children shout shoga (male prostitute) at them on the streets.
This hostility towards men who have sex with men reflects generally conservative attitudes in the Kenyan society towards all aspects of sexual behaviour. Despite one of the severest HIV/Aids epidemics in the world, Government officials have removed from the school curriculum any subject, topic or learning material that touches on sex education - including Family Life, a booklet published by the American Girl Guides Association. In August 1995 the Roman Catholic Archbishop of Nairobi joined hands with the Imam of Jamia Mosque in Nairobi as they led their faithful in the burning of condoms and sex education books in Nairobi.
Daily Nation,
Nairobi, Kenya
June 24, 1998
2
The "Myth" of Homosexuality in Kenya Society
Paul,
39, a technician at the University of Nairobi, married with three
children, gets
almost hysterical with laughter when asked whether he knows any
homosexual people. "What would I be doing with homosexuals? Don't I look man enough?" he bellows. Yet, within walking distance from the university, in a building open to the public, young men who openly refer to themselves as gay meet on a regular basis to socialise, a few even coming in for the sundowner (a drink at the end of the day) wearing make-up and jewellery. While men, such as Eddy, Ivan and Jack are "obvious",
others are more discreet. There is 42-year-old Odongo, for example,
a petrol attendant who grew up in Kisumu and pays for male partners.
His family forced him to marry but he has no intimacy with his
wife, who still resides in Kisumu.
Or
Jared, 55, who works as a casino manager and owns a in house in
a posh Nairobi suburb.
Jared has been married three times and has a six-year-old daughter.
Each of his wives left after finding out that their marriage was
just a front. Jared goes to church every Sunday "to pray for my sin" but
is unable to abandon his lifestyle. He keeps framed love letters
in his house and treats his male guests to sex videos for entertainment.
Amin, 54, is a primary school headmaster who leads two lives - one in public during the day, the other in the evening in the backstreets of Nairobi. He chews miraa (a herbal intoxicant) in a bar and restaurant where he can drink, eat and pick up a young man whom he will take to a more private facility where he can hire a room for sex before going home to sleep. His relationships are with young men in their twenties, who he assists financially.
Peter,
a 50-year-old property developer and "social animal",
once married and now divorced, is seen frequently at social functions
with different
young women. When the party is over, he drops the girls home, then
takes up his male relationships in private. Statistics on men who
have sex with men can be difficult to find, but the men themselves
are to be found across the nation. Kisumu, for example, has a reputation
for homosexual activity, with men such as gardeners, cooks, hotel,
shop and golf attendants, having relationships with their - usually
older - employers. Money rather than desire appears to be the motive
for many of the younger men, while the older men have the wealth
to cover their lifestyle from general public scrutiny.
Perhaps not surprisingly, it is in Nairobi where men who have sex with other men are easiest to find, although not everyone is aware of this. Men who have sex with men are perhaps more accepted at the Coast, where the Arabic past heavily influences the Swahili culture. Not only is there is a Swahili word for homosexuality (msenge), but there are cases of marriages between men. Twenty- three-year-old Hassan, for example, has been married three times, each time complete with dowry and wedding rings.
Hassan appears feminine, pouting his lips and covering his face when laughing.
When walking, he swings delicately while holding his kanzu (robe) under his arm - much in the same manner as Arabic women carry themselves. He wishes his marriages had been legal, so that he could claim his rights from the husbands who have abandoned him.
He believes that one in particular, who left him when he (the husband) was
forced by his parents to take a wife, will come back to him. "I used to cook for this man, make his bed, and be there for him. Yet he left me," Hassan
says sadly. As older women, known as mkungus, educate young girls in the
duties of marriage, on the Kenyan coast young homosexual men learn from
male mkungus.
Ahmed,
36, who lives in Mombasa, learnt bedroom tactics from a mkungu,
as well as how
to groom himself, to look out for disease and to keep his man happy
by being a good cook. The training, which is both theoretical and
practical - including sexual - lasts a month. At the end of the "course", the younger man gives the mkungu special cloth and kitchen utensils as payment. Ahmed is now a mkungu himself, advising what perfume to sprinkle on one's body to please the "husband" and demonstrating how to wear the special khanga (flowered cloth) in the house. "You must be clean and smell nice to your husband all the time," he
tells his recruits.
For eight years, Karim, 30, who also lives in Mombasa, has maintained a relationship with a 40-year-old man married to his cousin. Five years ago, the cousin caught them in bed. To hush things up, Karim was asked to marry his lover's 16-year-old adopted daughter. From Karim's point of view, it was a good arrangement, as it offered him both the respectability of a wife and continued access to his lover, now his father-in-law. With no experience with girls, Karim forced himself on his wedding night to provide his relatives with the evidence that he had broken his wife's virginity. He now has a five-year- old daughter and does not want another child. Two evenings a week he and his lover hire a hotel room, where they spend several hours before each returns to his wife. At the travel agency where he works, Karim's colleagues know that he is gay. The women are friendly, but some men despise him while others approach him in private. Karim believes that most men in Mombasa enjoy sex with other men and rejects the theory that homosexuality was brought by tourists.
Fazal,
30, a mechanical engineer with an 18-year-old lover, agrees. Now
he is faithful
to his partner, but as a teenager he had several experiences with
fellow boys. "Many men in Mombasa try out homosexuality in their youth," he
says.
Abdul, also 30, is a successful businessman who travels frequently to the Gulf. He was a virgin when his parents found a wife for him, as is the tradition, and they have a two-year-old daughter. Meanwhile, Abdul has been in a loving relationship with another man his own age for the past three years. They have a small flat in which they meet regularly and where Abdul does all the housework. In his own house, where his wife and sisters prepare and serve his food, the roles are reversed.
Rocky,
23, is a tall young man from western Kenya who was brought up in
Mombasa. He
is a student of languages and hopes to become a tour guide. When
he was younger, a neighbour his father's age introduced him to
homosexual activity. Their affair lasted three years. For the moment,
Rocky does not have a stable relationship. "Marriage is not an option for me," he says. "God
made me and understands me. I don't think what I do is a sin."
Most
men who have sex with men in Kenya keep their activities so secret
they will not
admit it to close friends or family members. As a result, the pressures
of a double life get to many men. On the one hand, Abdul appears
to adore his male lover of the last three years, but at the same
time he says that now he has a one-year son he is tired of "playing around with the woman". He would like to begin a new life and stop his homosexual relationship. "I don't want my son to get to know that I am a homosexual, and for him to be ashamed of me," he says. "I think that Allah will come to punish me." Fazal, with an 18-year-old-lover, prays that one day "I will see the light and stop this sin". His parents want to arrange a wedding for him, although he would rather get a wife on his own. "With time things change, and I might get used to a heterosexual relationship," he says. He would like to move to Dubai, where he could live anonymously. "There
I would not have to deal with the heartache of being despised and
children calling one in the street msenge."
Others,
such as Eric believe that it is society rather than homosexual
men who should
change. But few would go so far as in Zimbabwe and Botswana or
Europe and north America, where organisations of gay men have been
established. In the 1960s, there was an attempt to form a gay club
in Nairobi, when men met at the Pop-In restaurant (now closed).
In the early 1970s, another Nairobi restaurant was popular until
street fights erupted between women sex workers and gay men. Later,
they got together at the Club 1900 until the Government cracked
down on the club, citing drugs as the reason. Today, the locales
where men who have sex with men can meet are well known to those "in the know", but none advertise. Furthermore, since homosexuality in Kenya is considered a criminal act, few men are willing to "come out" -
to openly admit their homosexuality and to demand a place for gay
men in Kenyan society.
The
stories of many men reveal that most are pressured into marriage.
Some wives know
of their husband's sexual and emotional relationships with other
men, while other wives remain ignorant. Amin, the primary school
headmaster, for example, has an unspoken agreement with his wife
of 26 years. She knows that he prefers men, while he only "bothered with her" to
have their three children. Karim in Mombasa has intimacy with his
wife on Wednesdays and Saturdays, but does not enjoy it. Were she
to walk away from the marriage, he says he would not bother to
marry again. There are cases of heterosexual wives finding out
that their husbands are bisexual. Some seek counselling, hoping
that the husband will change, or they simply walk out if they are
economically independent.
Frank Njenga, of the
Kenya Medical Association, recently handled a case where a woman found her husband and a male family friend in the matrimonial bed when she came home unexpectedly. The woman brought her husband for counselling. He agreed to stop having sex with men and stopped for some time only to go back to his old ways. The couple are now separated.
n
another case, an accountant heard rumours about her husband from
her gardener and came home
one afternoon to find him in bed with the cook. She says, "I could not live with him another day, I moved into a hotel to sort out my feelings and to consult my lawyer." Because
of the children, it was the husband who eventually had to move
out. Julie is still receiving psychological counselling.
How much women are at risk of contracting HIV from their husbands' affairs is uncertain. Often, there is little sexual contact between them, although even one act of intercourse is enough to transmit the virus if a condom is not used. A few men are careful to protect themselves and their wives by using condoms with their male partners.
Others
believe they are not at risk. Abdul, mentioned above, does not
use condoms because "I am faithful to my partner and to my wife".
With no official information to guide them, few men who have sex
with men are persuaded to use condoms on a regular basis. Some
of the men interviewed said they did not use condoms with their
wives on the grounds that to do so would invite suspicion. Furthermore,
they argued, there is no risk since they had only one male partner
to whom they are faithful. (In fact, there is a risk
if a partner is unfaithful or contracted HIV before the couple
began having sex). Those who have multiple partners say they "try"
to use condoms, but the word itself suggests they sometimes or
often fail. Of the men interviewed, only Karim uses condoms all
the time, although he calls
them "cumbersome". Many others, such as Abdul and Fazal, consider that fidelity protects them. Odongo sees no need for protection, while Jared believes that with young "untainted" boys he is safe. Amin occasionally uses condoms, believing that he cannot get HIV/Aids if he goes out with "fresh" men.
Kassim,
19, of Mombasa has just completed high school and would like to
become a computer
programmer. He admits that he has been promiscuous and that even
though he is aware of Aids he does not use a condom. "Why spoil the fun?" he asks, adding, "I hope that I won't get Aids." Indeed,
many of the men interviewed prefer to have sex without condoms.
Others cited the fact that stronger condoms for homosexuals are
not available in Kenya and the regular condoms they use tend to
tear easily and are, therefore, ineffective.
Daily Nation,
Nairobi, Kenya
June 26, 1998
3
Homosexuality and Aids: A double-edged sword by Wanjira Kiama
Kenyan
law defines any sexual relations between men as a criminal act.
There are, however,
few prosecutions; one exception is the current (early 1998) investigation
into the Forum for Positive Generation on Aids Prevention, a registered
community organisation for people with HIV in Kisumu. Police allege
that the organisation has been "recruiting" homosexuals.
The rarity of prosecutions is no doubt one of the factors behind
the statement of Attorney-General Amos Wako that his office does
not know the extent of homosexual practices in the country. Wako
repeats the Government's line that homosexuality is widely regarded
as unAfrican and the wider public does not see the need for research
in this area.
"What we have on this is just impressions, since there are no reliable figures anywhere," says Dr Frank Njenga, a psychiatrist and chairman of the social responsibility committee for the Kenya Medical Association and an HIV/AIDS prevention activist. "People tend to either exaggerate or underrate the extent of homosexuality, bisexuality and lesbianism." Njenga argues that Kenyan society has not "developed" to the level where people with a different sexual orientation are allowed to be themselves or develop within laws and rights set out for them. As a result, "we have a good number of Kenyan men who are constitutionally homosexual and socially heterosexual, so as to fit in the society".
The only national statistics that in any way relates to homosexual
activity is the UNAIDS estimate that fewer than five per cent of
Aids cases are the result of sexual transmission of HIV between
men.
The
UNAIDS resident advisor, Dr George Tembo, says that for Kenya and
other developing
countries, this is a grey area since there has been no authoritative
study. The figure is based on anecdotal evidence. Furthermore,
many African men having sex with other men are bisexual. "It is a double-edged sword," says Tembo. "How does the doctor or sociologist decide whether the HIV/Aids infection of a bisexual man is through his relationship with a woman or with a man?" Meanwhile, studies undertaken by the African Medical Research Foundation (Amref) of the high incidence of sexually transmitted diseases among truck drivers between Mombasa and Uganda offer evidence of some homosexual activity, particularly between men and boys aged 12 to 16. "It is not known whether it is men expressing their own sexuality, or whether it is something learnt," says
Dr John Nduba, deputy director of the Amref country office.
Such
studies are supported by anecdotal evidence that suggests sexual
activity between men
in Kenya is more common than generally believed. Young people,
usually men with men and women with women, often share housing
for economic reasons. But, according to Allan Ragi, chairman of
the Kenya Aids NGO Consortium, some young men share housing for
emotional and physical needs. He adds that although not officially
acknowledged, homosexuality is practised in prisons, the military
and boarding schools and colleges throughout the country. Ragi
claims that more young men than old men participate in homosexual
activity. An Aids programme manager with an international NGO who
declined to be named, shares that opinion: "Men having sex
with men is not only common among young people, but fashionable.
Just as young men like to wear an earring, they are also opting
to try out homosexual practice. It is not just seen as an orientation,
but also a `fancy lifestyle'."
According to interviews with men who have sex with men, the most common sexual activity is anal penetration. The roles within the relationship are often clearly defined, with the same partners taking the active (insertive) and passive (receptive) role. Those who are looking for steady relationships often do not rush into sex, preferring to get to know each other well first. In such situations, the relationship progresses from appreciative looks to touching, kissing and cuddling before more intimate touching and finally to sexual intercourse. Those who are interested only in casual relationships want only sex, sometimes watching erotic videos to put themselves and their partners in the mood. Due to the constraints on relationships between men, a good number of those interviewed have intense but short-lived relationships. Sometimes men give up relationships with other men, either to see if they can be happy in relationships with women or, because of society's reaction, to practise celibacy.
In
addition to the lifestyles described in this article, it is clear
that there is "institutional homosexuality" -
sexual activity between men in institutions such as boarding schools,
the military and prisons- and this too is worthy of research. (PANOS)
Preventing Transmission of HIV
From time immemorial, men in most societies - past and present - writes Wanjira Kiama have had sexual relationships with other men. It is not known why some men prefer to have sex with other males rather than with women. As a species, human males and females mate in order to reproduce, but the sexual behaviour of individuals is driven by a range of social, psychological and biological factors that are still poorly understood. Recent studies suggest that a gene or the hypothalamus may influence a man's desire to have sex with other men.
Unprotected anal intercourse has the highest risk to sexual transmission of HIV - and omitting this fact from education campaigns may actually increase the incidence of anal intercourse with men and women. Where understanding of Aids is poor, HIV can spread rapidly among groups of men who have sex with men and from them, less rapidly, to their female sexual partners and their future children. This pattern of rapid transmission occurred in the late 1970s and early 1980s in North America and Western Europe and was seen later in several other countries. In some regions, such as North America, sex between men continues to be the predominant mode of HIV transmission while in others, such as the English-speaking Caribbean, it appears to have been overtaken by sexual transmission between men and women.
In Thailand, one paper suggest that 6 per cent of men have same-sex experience, but same- sex activity is responsible for 12 per cent of transmission of HIV infection in men. In countries where sex between men is recognised, non- governmental organisations and sometimes governments have developed prevention programmes which have often succeeded in limiting or reducing the rate at which HIV is transmitted between men. However, where sex between men is denied, such prevention programmes are seldom developed. In the last ten years, small groups of men in a number of countries have formed organisations which attempt to address this problem, but these have often been limited by financial and cultural considerations. These cultural factors may include hostility or indifference from the government, laws against sex between men., disagreement between different ethnic or socio- economic groups as to the goals of the campaign and hostility or indifference from the men they are trying to reach, who often deny that they are at risk.
Despite these obstacles, many NGOs working with men who have sex with men have gained valuable experience both in understanding the social and psychological factors behind such behaviour and in developing programmes which respond to these factors. The best of these programmes not only help men to protect themselves in their sexual encounters with other men, but also to protect their female partners and future children. Furthermore, by their actions and presence, they alert governments and, to some extent, the general population to the fact that men who have sex with men are an integral part of their society. As revealed in a study undertaken by Panos in 1996, there are still many countries and cultures where there is little or no recognition of the existence or the extent of sexual activity between men and where government and non-governmental response has been non-existent or minimal. This means that in many parts of the world, it is still not certain the extent to which sex between men is a significant factor in the Aids epidemic and assumptions of an exclusively or predominantly male-female epidemic need to be re-examined.
In
the English-speaking Caribbean, the health authorities are re-examining
the role of
sexual transmission between men, prompted by awareness that many
men are reluctant to admit sexual activity with other men and by
the high percentage of cases where transmission is reported as "unknown" - 18 per cent across the region and as high as 35 per cent in some countries. Dr Bilali Camara points out that "in countries where sex between men is accepted, we see that there are less cases of `unknown'." The implication is that many of these "unknowns" are in fact sex between men. A similar situation may be seen in Mexico, where the percentage of "unknowns" reaches
40 per cent. The debate as to whether these should be attributed
to sex between men is much more than epidemiological, since it
goes to the heart of how Mexicans perceive their own sexual behaviour.
Camara
suggests that social pressures on men who prefer men may be perpetuating
the
epidemic in the Caribbean. "If society is really pushing people to be married and does not tolerate homosexuality, we will be battling for a long time." He adds that only when society as whole accepts that some men prefer sex with men, will it be possible to "empower
people to accept what they are and do the correct thing - that
is practise protective behaviour."
Muriel Douglas, acting co-ordinator of the National Aids Programme in Trinidad, recommends that education on HIV transmission between men be given to secondary school children of both sexes. While this might not increase tolerance, it would at least provide young men attracted to other men with the knowledge of how to protect themselves and would advise young women that their male partners may risk through sex with other men. However, Douglas admitted, this idea is still theoretical since funds are not available for such work.
Panos
Features, 9 White Lion Street, London N1 9PD, United Kingdom
4
AIDS
in Kenya: Where Are Kenya's Homosexuals?
August 14 1998 (?)
by Wanjira Kiama, Nairobi, (Panos)
African leaders from Jomo Kenyatta,
Kenya's first president, to Robert Mugabe, current president
of Zimbabwe, have claimed that sex between men is ''un-African''
and only occurs on the continent
as a result of pernicious Western influence.
Daniel Arap Moi, the current Kenyan president, agrees. ''Kenya has no
room or
time for homosexuals and lesbians. Homosexuality is
against African norms and traditions, and even in religion
it is considered a great sin,'' Arap Moi has
been quoted saying i n Kenya's Daily Nation newspaper.
But networks of men who have sex with men can be found across the continent.
And in Kenya, where homosexuality is a criminal offence, their voices are beginning
to be heard.
Statistics on the number of such men are hard to come by. ''What
we have is just impressions,'' said Dr Frank Njenga, a psychiatrist
and HIV/AIDS prevention activist.
Njenga argues that Kenya has ''a good number of men who are
constitutionally homosexual but socially heterosexual, so as to
fit in the society.''
As in all other developing countries, sex between men plays a small but measurable
role in Kenya's HIV/AIDS epidemic. But that role is not
restricted to men alone. Official and societal disapproval often
obliges such men to marry women. And
if they have unprotected sex, the risk of HIV transmission increases.
According
to UNAIDS, the umbrella United Nations agency, fewer than
five percent of AIDS cases in the country are the result of sexual
transmission
of HIV between men. But studies by the African Medical
Research Foundation (AMREF) of sexually transmitted diseases among
truck drivers show evidence of homosexual activity, particularly
between older men and boys aged 12 to 16 years. These studies are supported by
anecdota l evidence which suggests that sex between men in Kenya is more common
than generally believed.
AMREF is trying to establish how people contracted the virus in order to develop
strategies that can help check transmission. According to AMREF's Dr Nduba, ''Homosexuality
is an area that needs to be looked into, but we tend to shy away from reality.''
''Men having sex with men is not only common among young people, but fashionable.
Just as young men like to wear an earring, they are also opting to try out homosexual
practice. It is not just seen as an orientation, but also a 'fancy lifestyle',''
said
All an Ragi, of the Kenya AIDS NGO Consortium.
Ragi
says sex between men is practised in prisons, the military,
boarding schools and colleges throughout Kenya. And
some men share housing not only for economic
reasons, but also to meet emotional and physical needs.
Other
interactions are more open. Within walking distance of the University
of Nairobi, in a building open to the public, young men who openly
refer to themselves as gay meet regularly to socialise. A few even
come in for a drink at the end of the day, w earing make-up and
jewellery.
But in general, homosexuals in Kenya -- as in many other countries
-- tend to keep their sexuality a secret. They include men
like:-
-- Odongo, 42, a petrol attendant who no longer has intimacy with his wife
but pays for sex with male partners;
-- Jared, 55, who owns a big house in a posh Nairobi suburb, and has been married
thrice -- each of his wives left him after finding out that their marriage
was a front for his homosexual lifestyle;
-- Amin, 54, a primary school headmaster who hires a room for sex with young
men he picks up in the evenings;
-- Peter, a 50 year-old property developer who is frequently seen at social
functions with young women. When the party is over, he drops the girls off
before taking
up his male relationships in private; and
-- Rocky, 23, a student of languages who says ''Marriage is not an option for
me. God made me and understands me. I don't think it is a sin what I do.''
Men who have sex with men are perhaps more accepted in the coastal
regions of Kenya, where there are 'marriages' between men. As older women, known as
mkungus,
educate young girls in the duties of marriage, young homosexual men learn from
male mkungus. T he training lasts a month; at the end, the younger man gives
the mkungu special cloth and kitchen utensils as payment.
Most men who prefer sex with men claim that they are pressured into marriage.
Some wives know of their husband's sexual and emotional relationships with
other men, while others remain ignorant. Those who find out seek counselling,
hoping
that the husband will change, or, if they are economically independent, they
walk out.
How
much women are at risk of contracting HIV from their husbands'
affairs is uncertain.
The taboos surrounding men who have sex with men have meant that few, if any,
attempts have been made to provide AIDS education and support to them. As a result,
few such men use condoms regularly. Some men do not use condoms
with their wives because they fear that it will invite suspicion. Often there
is little sexual
contact between husband and wife, although even one act of intercourse is enough
to transmit the virus if a condom is not used.
While authorities acknowledge the impact of male behaviour towards women on the
epidemic, there is no official recognition of the role of homosexuals who may
either themselves contract HIV or pass the virus to their male or female partners.
UNAIDS Resident Advisor George Tembo says his organisation has not yet targeted
men who have sex with men. ''Homosexuals are not easily accessible. They will
need to come out of the closet if they are to get any attention,'' he says.
However, a document adopted unanimously by the Kenyan Parliament in September
1997 acknowledges that ''groups such as beach boys, watchmen, soldiers, prisoners
and truck drivers may usually establish casual relationships because circumstances
separate th em from their regular sexual partners for long periods. This makes
them more vulnerable to HIV.''
Maina Kahindo of the Ministry of Health comments that ''taking into account other
modes of transmission of HIV/AIDS, homosexuality is negligible, and should not
take up our resources and time.'' He continues, ''We have other, far more pressing
areas which affect the majority of our people and therefore need urgent attention.''
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Kenya's President jumps on anti-gay bandwagon
1 October 1999
Nairobi,
Kenya—Kenyan President Daniel Arap Moi has joined an ever growing
list of African leaders to attack gay people, saying homosexuality
is a “scourge” that runs counter to Christian teachings and African
tradition.
President
Daniel arap MoiReuters reports President Moi made the comments during
an agricultural show in Nairobi on Wednesday. Moi said Kenyans should
guard against “dangerous practices” such as homosexuality.“ It
is not right that a man should go with another man or a woman with
another woman. It is against African tradition and Biblical teachings,”
the 75-year-old Moi said. “I will not shy away from warning Kenyans
against the dangers of the scourge.” Moi
was asked to comment on comments made to Yoweri Museveni, President
of neighboring Uganda earlier this week. Museveni said that he had
ordered his security services to round up gay men and lesbians for
the commission of what he said were “abominable acts.”
His
comments were compared to those made by Zimbabwean President Robert
Mugabe who for several years has been particularly outspoken in his
condemnation of homosexuality. Active repression of Zimbabwe’s fledgling
gay rights movement and comments describing gay men and lesbians as
“lower than dogs and pigs” provoked international outcry.
Mugabe
has been the subject of gay-led protests at nearly every international
public appearance he has made over the past several years. But as
President Moi and President Museveni made all too clear, Mugabe is
hardly alone in Africa. Most African rulers regard homosexuality as
a perversion imposed on Africans by white colonialists.
Moi
made fun of gays in his comments before the conference on Wednesday. “Now we are seeing men wearing earrings to make it easy for them to
be identified by other men,”he said to the amusement of his audience.
More and more young men in Kenya’s urban areas wear earrings emulating
Western pop stars whose videos are shown on Kenyan television.
The
News, Lagos, Nigeria
(E-Mail: ijc@linkserve.com.ng )
April 22, 2002
6
Gays in Other Lands
by
Michael Mukwuzi
Jomo
Kenyatta, the revered founding president of Kenya exuded much
confidence when he declared in the 60s that there was no African word
for homosexuality. Kenyatta averred that the practice was totally
un-African and unknown to the black man.
Kenyatta's
pronouncement received an extra boost with a statement from President
Daniel Arap Moi
who stated in public that "Kenya
has no room or time for homosexuals and lesbians. It is against
African norms and traditions, and even in religion it is considered
a sin".
However
the pronouncement on homosexuality fell flat on its face decades later
when the sodomy trial of Canaan Banana, a close friend and long time
political associate of Zimbabwe's President Robert Mugabe,
reverberated throughout sub-saharan Africa. The entire continent was
held spell bound when the Daily Nation, a newspaper published in Kenya,
exposed graphic details of how Banana committed the act.
Beyond
the Banana saga, independent enquiries reveal that while there is
greater acknowledgement of homosexuality in the Kenyan coastal city
of Mombassa, there is no more acceptance than is found in the capital,
Nairobi. Men who are believed to have sex with men are despised,
ridiculed, harassed, sometimes beaten and often threatened with lynching
and execution.
The study also showed that the level of social conservatism is not
limited to homosexuality but also relates to all matters of sexual
nature. Politicians, religious institutions and the other dominating
social customs in Kenyan society also reinforce the strong cultural
prohibition towards the act.
Outside
the shores of Africa, the practice is as widespread as ever, especially
among catholic priests in the United States and Britain. In
early February 2002, the Diocese of Manchester, New Hampshire, published
the names of 14 priests involved in the deed and turned their cases
over to civil authorities. Interestingly, of the 14, only one Reverend
John Porier in Gorham remained on duty as an active full-time priest.
Six others were retired while seven were sent packing as a result
of multiple involvements. In Abingdon, Massachussets parish, Reverend
Joseph Welsh was removed from his sacred position for what church
spokesmen termed "credible" charges of child molestation.
Ordained in 1968, Welsh was the ninth Massachusetts priest sacked
in February for similar reasons. In Philadelphia, archdiocese spokesman,
Catherine Rossi, announced the dismissal of several priests connected
with child molestation.
In
March 2002, Rev. Micheal Doucette, parish priest of St. Agatha, Maine,
announced to his stunned congregation that he had been intimately
involved with a 15 year-old boy at another parish. Also in the same
month, two Jesuit priests employed as teachers at Boston College High
School, Reverends Francis Mc Manus and James Talbot were charged with
harassing students. The same period, the Boston archdiocese officials
settled civil claims arising from the crimes of Father John Geoghan
for an estimated $20 million, bringing the total settlement in his
case alone to $35 million for an estimated 186 victims. Later, the
Catholic Diocese of Spring field, Massachusetts gave up files on 90
child-molesting priests to civil authorities.
In
Spain, a Roman Catholic priest shocked the entire nation
when he became the first priest to publicly declare his practice
of homosexuality. "I give thanks to God for being gay",
Father Jose Mantero, a parish priest in the town of Val Verde,
Southern Spain, stated on
the front cover of the gay magazine, Zero. The priest was pictured
wearing his dog collar, an earring in his left ear and a studded
leather
bracelet.
365Gay.com
http://365gay.com/NewsContent/011803kenyaRights.htm
January
18, 2003
7
Kenya Gays See End To Repression
Nairobi
- Kenya's gays and lesbians are hopeful the new government of President
Mwai Kibaki will herald the beginning of acceptance. After decades
of repression Kenya's gay community is mostly closeted, but a growing
gay rights movement is expressing confidence in the reforms announced
this week by Kibaki, including a new constitution which guarantees
basic human rights.
Kenyan
gay rights group Galebitra says it does not expect the constitution
to include specific references to gays but the group's co-ordinator
Jeremy Mirie said he believed basic human rights protections would
be interpreted as including sexual minorities. Kibaki has also
promised the creation of a special ministry to deal with constitutional
affairs. That is good news Mirie said, adding that it will give his
group a pipeline to advocate on lesbian and gay issues.
Mirie
said he believes Kibaki will keep his promises to liberalize the
country citing pressure from IMF, World Bank and other bodies
in the industrialized world. He said that "External pressure
from [GLBT] organizations outside Kenya will help give voice to the
lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered community within Kenya."
Behind the Mask (a website
on gay and lesbian affairs in Africa)
http://www.mask.org.za
Kenya
July
5, 2003
8
Kenya girls together
by Mokaya Migiro from Saturday Magazine Home
We have heard of the growing number of gay men in our midst but very
rarely do we hear people speak about the women yet apparently they
are just as many. "Hata hiyo maneno wanayoongea, hatuwezi
kusema kwa lugha yetu" - Former President Daniel arap Moi
on gays. That could very easily sum up the accepted Kenyan attitude
towards gays. Kenyans, at least most of them, are straight ugali
and sukuma wiki people. They value their traditions and conform
to societal norms. Men are brought up to be real men and women
are brought up to be real women.
These
two categories of people link up to form a family unit which in
turn forms a society. And
they live happily ever after or so goes the gospel according
to African tradition society. Though not an accepted societal norm,
gay relationships between men have become fairly commonplace
here
in Kenya. Between women, however, it is a subject that hardly
ever comes up. Yet an increasing number of women in Kenya are involved
in relationships with same sex partners. Does this point to hitherto
undisclosed flaws in our societal values or is this a side-effect
of modernity?
Haunted
by these questions and apprehensive of the
daunting task of getting gay people to come out of the closet,
Mokaya Migiro went looking for lesbians willing to talk. These
are their true stories. Names have been changed to protect
privacy. See them out on a date, most people think it's a girls
night
out. Since most women hug, peck and sometimes hold hands, they
do not
stand out. Because of this acceptable affection, lesbians find
it easy to blend-in negating the need for special social places.
I meet Carol, a successful 30-year-old businesswoman, casual
in jeans, shirt and safari boots.
Hers
is not just a casual fling. She not only lives with her lover,
Katrina, but has had the
relationship formalised. Carol feels women are more gentle, caring,
loving
and
honest than men. "I could have sex with a man and fake
it. But I couldn't fake it with a woman.
When I am with a woman it is something so pure and special," she
says, "And it is not just about having great sex. It is about
this loving, caring and gentle relationship. Remembering birthdays,
keeping time and putting the person you love before you. "For
the past four and a half years that I have been with my girlfriend,
she has never forgotten my birthday or our anniversary. It is all
these loving gestures that you would never get in a man that make
me love her even more," she enthuses. Carol and her girlfriend
felt so strongly about each other that they decided to get
married 19 months ago.
"We wanted to show that our commitment to each
other was for real. When I die, I'd like my partner to inherit my
property as my next of kin. Hopefully by then, the law here will
have changed," says Carol, who sports a diamond engagement ring
and a gold wedding band. "Besides, my partner works
for this company that has very good benefits for spouses
including free air
tickets and medical cover. We thought it made sense for me
to have these benefits."
But Kenyan law does not recognise same sex marriages, so
Carol and Katrina went to Switzerland, where Katrina is from. "All her
family and friends were there at the ceremony. I had already met
her mother when she came to Kenya to visit Katrina and she was really
cool about the whole thing. We went to the equivalent of the Attorney-General's
chambers, signed the papers then had dinner and a party at our friend's
place. That's how simple it was," Carol recalls. Back home,
things are not so simple. Many Kenyans would argue that lesbianism
is a foreign concept and an unsavoury side-effect of modernity and
Westernisation. "Who says that lesbianism started recently?
Many women have been able to fool men all through time. Even
now some of my male friends do not know I am a lesbian.
They think Katrina and I are just good friends sharing a
house. Let sleeping dogs lie," says Carol with a sly smile. And what about
comments that it's all a foreign lifestyle? "The people who
have hit on me are mostly Kenyan women. Even though I am married
to a white woman, white lesbians in Kenya are few. Most of my friends
who are in relationships are Kenyans. It's not therefore right, at
least in my experience, to claim that lesbianism is a foreign concept.
It is very much with us here today and those involved are locals" says
Carol. Carol believes her upbringing influenced her decision
to get involved in same-sex relationships.
In her home, the eight daughters were forced to wait on their
younger brothers and violent father. "My father made us feel our brothers
were more important than we were. He basically considered us girls
a waste of space. We would be asked, even though we were older than
them, to serve, cook and clean for our brothers. They were small
kings in our house," says Carol. Her mother's advice also turned
her against men. "My mother believed all women who suffer
do so because of men.
When I was 12 years old, there was a photograph in the paper
of a pregnant nine-year-old girl. My mother called all of
us girls
and
told us, 'You see, this is what you are going to be like
if you keep fooling around with men.' Growing up seeing the
men
being
favoured
and the violence that her father would unleash on her mother,
Carol made a decision that "men would never rule my life again".
She traces her first lesbian encounter to when she was doing her
'O' levels. One day, the head girl just kissed her out of the blue. "It
felt so good. Boys wanted only one thing.
This kiss felt like it was not a demand for sex. It was more
an appreciation of who I was," she recalls. She enjoys the equality she experiences
in a relationship with a woman. "I'm equal from my kitchen to
my bedroom, to my car, to my place of work. I am not the type who
wants a 'man' in the house," she says. That has not stopped
her from experimenting with men. Five years ago, she had her first
sexual relationship with a man "I liked him, he listened to
me and my body", and she continues to have the occasional affair
even though she is now in a monogamous relationship. "I
have always had relationships with women, but men I just
sleep with.
There are times I prefer men. I think it has something to
do with a woman's cycle. Sometimes I just feel like I need
a man. "My
girlfriend is also bisexual and she doesn't mind me sleeping with
men because it is not a threat to what we have. And besides I only
sleep with men when I want to and according to the terms that I dictate. "When
I feel like, I pick a man up, sleep with him and then discard
him quickly.
Most men I have encountered do not even know I am attached
to a woman. They think they are very smooth and that is how
they
scored
with
me. I sometimes think if they knew who I really was they'd
be devastated," Carol
laughs. Looking to the future, Carol's wish is that gay rights
- in particular same-sex marriages - be recognised.
Next I meet Precious, a 24-year-old logistics manager. Dread-locked,
beautiful, with big brown eyes, an almost shy persona with
a killer smile, she comes across as tomboy-ish and laid back
but
very intense.
She wears no make-up, prefers shirts and sneakers to skirts
and heels. A mix of silver and African jewellery - the kind
you'd
associate with independent, creative women - completes her
look. She smokes,
is unbeatable in pool, gives firm handshakes and can drink
any man
under the table!
Over a drink, she agrees to talk to me on condition that
I keep her identity secret, this she says is not just to
protect
her
but her
partner as well. A few stalling tactics and awkward silences
later, she begins her story. Like Carol, her first lesbian
experience was at school.
"When I joined Form One, we were allocated 'big sisters'
from senior classes to act as our guardians. Mine was a Form Three
student with a heart of pure gold. She helped me with my studies,
warned off the bullies and ensured I was comfortably settled in.
Inevitably, I developed a deep bond with her. So deep that sometimes
I'd spend the night in her bed. First, it was the cuddles, then the
fooling around and before I knew it, we were spending every night
together." A sip of her drink as she warms up to the
tale.
" Our relationship didn't last long though because we were discovered
by the teachers. This led to my being suspended on numerous
occasions. Of course, I always denied any wrongdoing when I went home but my
mother suspected. She never really said that she didn't
believe me, but I could tell ... she just suspected."
"
After high school, I started seeing men. I had a few relationships
with them, some of which were very fulfilling but I still felt drawn
to women. I started seeing women secretly. Some were just experimenting
while others were completely gay and it was all so much fun. Then
I got to where I decided there was no point in playing games with
the men in my life when the only people I really felt comfortable
with were women. Looking back now, I don't regret having made that
decision." Precious lifts a cigarette to her lips,
lights it, takes a deep drag and simultaneously drops the
pack almost carelessly
on the table - a gesture I find very masculine.
But what attracts her to members of her own sex? Was it
something in her childhood perhaps or the men in her life? "Not at all," she
is quick to point out. "I had a perfectly normal childhood,
a good family and lots of love. All my siblings are straight. I'm
the only 'crooked' one, if you like. The men in my life had nothing
to do with my decision either. "I feel the same way
a man does when he looks at a woman and is so taken by
her that he cannot even
speak. How do you explain that attraction ... that magnetic
pull from which there is no running away?"
Precious is in a serious relationship with Jalalo, a 29-year-old
aid worker. Tall, stunningly beautiful and extremely charming,
Jalalo has that regal carriage of a model. Effortlessly,
she can pull men
and women with one penetrating gaze from her feline eyes.
She has a seven-year-old daughter from a previous marriage
with
whom they
live. "I was born in a very traditional home," she says. "I
went to school, worked hard, got employed then married
well. I wanted to be the perfect daughter, wife and eventually
mother.
A few years into my marriage, I developed serious doubts
about my sexuality. I'd fantasise about other women when
I made love
to my
husband. I started seeing other women because that is what
my mind, body and soul wanted me to do. "This went
on for a while until I decided to tell my husband how I
felt. I thank God because he was
very understanding.
Him having a gay sister and being an American helped because
he kept an open mind, something I think an African man
would have
found very
hard to do. We agreed to separate, then divorce. He's now
happily married and I am happy for him." Like most
couples, Precious and Jalalo have conflicting stories about
how their relationship
started. They both dissolve into embarrassed giggles whenever
I broach the subject.
With gentle coaxing, I managed to glean the facts. When
they first met, Precious was in a relationship with another
woman. "But
I knew that if you love something, you have to fight for it," narrates
Jalalo with a conspiratorial look. "When Precious' girlfriend
decided to go straight, scared her family and friends wouldn't accept
it, I got my chance and I didn't waste it." Jalalo has since
taken Precious to her mother who's asked for dowry if they are to
get her blessings. Precious on the other hand has not yet summoned
the courage to reciprocate the gesture. They admit that they have
fights like any other couple but not about things like "he squeezes
the toothpaste in the middle". Their fights are mainly
about other women. Men don't bother them that much.
"
Sometimes people see us having a fight and think that we are fighting
over a man. Little do they know!" explains Precious. They go
to the same places that everyone else goes. We dance, drink enjoy
ourselves. Anyone looking would assume we are just two friends having
a nice time. But there was something nagging my mind. Jalalo had
been married before and has a child from that marriage. What about
Precious, didn't she ever want to get married or have her own child? "We've
discussed it at length," says Precious. "And
we've decided that if I ever want to have any children,
I'd get a sperm donor purely
for procreation purposes. But for now, I have Jalalo's
as my own and I am not in a hurry to make up my mind."
I wonder about Jalalo's seven-year-old daughter, how she
takes all this. Jalalo doesn't believe her daughter will
grow up
traumatised. "When
she is old enough, I'll tell her that this is mummy's special friend.
I won't lie to my daughter. People sometimes ask me whether I am
encouraging her to become gay like me but I always tell them that
my daughter's life is her own. If she decides to experiment, she'll
try it. It's something I cannot control even if I wanted to. "But
I'll teach my daughter all about how to be a woman with
morals and I'll always be there for her. Precious is already
her other mother.
Think about it how lucky can one be to have two mothers,
a dad and a step mum who all sikizana."
Both Precious and Jalalo agree that it is much harder for
gay men to come out in the open. People find it easier
to accept
us women
than men, they say. But they admit it is a daunting task
because women are already discriminated against even in
law. Worse
still, lesbians are a minority amongst women. They feel
the time is
not right yet for them to come out. "Let us first
fight for women rights, then the girl child, then maybe
we'll get to us. For now
we are choosing to remain anonymous but we would like people
to know that we are here and we are also human beings and
there's nothing
wrong with being who we are. We love each other and even
though we cannot show affection publicly, we hope that
one day we shall be
able to do so.
Today,
you are reading about us in the paper, tomorrow it might be your
sister, daughter or wife telling you this," Precious
says. They are strongly convinced that there are very
many women in Nairobi who are gay or bisexual but are too
scared of
their family,
friends
and mungiki to come out in the open. They estimate that
they know 70 to 100 such women and that there are many
more out
there. They
cite an example of a gay party they went to that had
12 female couples, most of who were married.
Behind the Mask (a website on gay and lesbian affairs in Africa)
http://www.mask.org.za/
July
2003
9
Gay people are struggling to earn recognition and respect, they are
continually denied.
Jabulani
Dube finds out how life is behind the mask.
Like
cold weather that bites awfully, that is the kind of life gay people
in African countries outside South Africa have to endure. "Living
here as a gay [person] is very much frustrating," says Mike.
He is gay and lives in Kenya.
Kenya
is one of the African countries where homosexuality is criminalized.
Nairobi has a population is about 4 million, it is under-developed
as are most great cities in Africa. The infrastructure such as road
networks, electricity, level of social amenities is not in proper
supply. But life in general is moderate; the level of education is
quiet high by African standards - 89% literacy rate.
And
Kenyans are pro-western in ideology meaning trendy lifestyles are
those from US or UK. Need not to say Kenya's countryside is beautiful
and one is better off living there than the big towns, which are crowded,
and with heavy traffic. Daniel Arap Moi, former Kenyan president,
once said, "Kenya has no room for homosexuals and lesbians.
Homosexuality is against African norms and traditions, and even
in religion it is considered a great sin". Gay people live their
lives in fear of being found out. The fear of being subjected to
hatred, bashing,
tortures and worse, imprisonment.
Gay
people are largely spurned by society because of their sexual
orientation, but worse is the rejection by their families. Mike is
one of those who had suffered the same fate. "Rejection came
soon after I had introduced my boyfriend. My parents rejected me
because of the stigma around homosexuality", he said. "And
with this rejection is the loss of parental love.
The
stigma that goes with being gay is having to put up with hatred
from heterosexuals.
This is just because of the differences or should I rather say
the
fear of the unknown." So how does one survive in this truly
hostile environment, where harassment is the daily bread? "You
have to bury your identity behind pillows", says Mike. Burying
ones identity doesn't come easy - since it involves letting your
desire
die, with shame of not being allowed to be. Harassment comes in all
sort of forms, from families, educational institutions and everywhere
else. There is no prosecution for being gay; law doesn't really talk
of being gay. Rather about committing unnatural acts such as sodomy,
bestiality and so on. So no one really has ever been charged for
being
gay.
With
the present law there are loopholes as James puts it, "In
order to be convicted, there have to be circumstantial evidence such
as being caught in the act by the police or the magistrate. Or if
one of the parties who partook in the sex act is complaining, which
can not happen since then it would imply that if it was consensual,
then both parties are guilty".
Wrestling
with the fact that they are gay, they start building up on false "hide
it up relationships". That is a life with a borrowed girlfriend
or worse opting for a marriage of convenience. Those who suffer
the most are the ones who live in the rural areas. There had been
hellish nights for Mike. When confronted by the blood- thirsty people,
luck had been with him; he always managed to get away in the face
of death. He says that some guys who bitterly labelled him a guy from
Sodom and Gomorrah almost killed him. A person has to live his life
looking over ones shoulder. One can only imagine how painful and what
torture it is to live a lie.
That
is when you live in the closet not by choice but because of compulsory
heterosexuality that is forced on everyone by the society norms.
Al, who is also gay, takes us into the live a lie life. He does not
act and/or behave in an obvious manner, say in dressing, talking
or
publicly move around with companions that people might easily tell
their orientation. Being not flamboyant helps him stay away from
confrontations.
That is not all: "I avoid situations where I get caught up in
brawls with someone because of relationship disagreements for example,
picking or hooking up with a stranger in a pub. I only go out with
people I know and understand well."
It
has been a living hell for him too. Gay people in a country where
they
are deprived of their human rights, is living "Hell on Earth" confessed
Al. He says that life has become a little easier since
he got to know people like him. He admits though that, "The
search was long and arduous" but he says that he is at least
at peace with himself. Al has never been confronted about his sexuality.
When asked if he is out: "Hell no" - he's not out for obvious
reasons.
However,
he has a feeling that some people have their suspicions, but none
has come to ask. Does he mind them at all? "Well I don't care
about what is in their minds," he responded. In a place where
one does not have a freedom to be, how do you recognise 'members'
of your 'family'? It is the hardest thing to do currently. There
is
no standard convention that's used here because of the modernisation
in people's habits.
With
the world going gay way, he says,"Some signs that used to be
considered gay have since been taken up by everyone thinking it's
a fashion sort of thing." "Internet has played a big role
lately for everyone here," suggests Al. Technology makes living
a little easy for gay people. However, the old as time trick still
works wonders he says. "In public places, eye contact still does
the trick once in a while".
The sad
side of things is that some people are good at taking advantage of
the situation. Because not all have access to the Internet, they
still meet on the streets and this goes with risk and not to say other
ways are not risky. People find themselves black mailed by those
who know their secretive ways of life." In search for their
soulmates, others even go as far as advertising themselves in the
local newspaper
looking for a pal. You'll certainly know what the massage is, if
you read between the lines. Surely nothing can stop people from getting
what they want. No matter how awful the situation might be. Al
expressed his concerned: "The problem is that you may attract
someone with other motives. Selling drugs, prostitutes or just some
guy who just wants free booze, then takes off eventually, just to
name a few".
It is
said that love has no colour and age is nothing but the number. Sadly,
this is not true at times, when one has no choice but to see his desire
shrinking away. The relationships are mostly between black and
black people. "There are few [relationships] though between
whites and blacks but they are rare and tend to be temporary and
more
often than not for commercial reasons", Al commented.
What
is the problem with black and white relationships? Relationships of
that kind are considered an outright sell out. You can hardly
be seen with a white man because people will conclude that you
are a rent-boy, explains Al. With that in mind, black boys
avoid being seen with white guys. The reality, of course, is that
homosexuality exists - the number of people coming out is the evidence
of this.
However,
it 's seems to be a long way to acceptance, and an overdue stay in
denial. It is still to be seen as to how long it's going to take Kenya
and the rest of the world to admit, and accept reality. Al, concludes,
"The situation is not bad as it's made to look from outside
Kenya. There is hope that tomorrow will be better than not."
East
African, Nairobi, Kenya
http://www.nationaudio.com/News/EastAfrican/current/Regional/Regional1509200
330.html
September
15, 2003
10
Gay Clergy: Cracks Appear in African Front at Lambeth
by Mwangi
Githahu
As 38
Anglican primates from all over the world gather in London this week,
it seems that the divisions within the Worldwide Anglican Community
are not as clear cut as they appeared to be at the beginning of the
ongoing debate on gay clergy. Most observers had assumed that the
meeting at Lambeth Palace, the official residence and office of the
Archbishop of Canterbury, Rowan Williams, who is the head of the Anglican
Church, would be split between primates from Britain, Canada and the
US against those from the rest of the Anglican Communion in Africa
and Asia.
It was
also beginning to look as though, just as with the debate over the
ordination of women in the 1980s, the Africans and Asians would win
whatever dispute took place by sheer weight of numbers. Now, however,
the lines of division seem blurred, with certain primates from Africa
and Asia, such as the Archbishop of Cape Town, Winston Njongonkulu
Ndungane, taking a different view. A week ahead of the Lambeth
Palace conference, some less irreverent commentators were referring
to it as a free for all.
But Archbishop
Ndungane suggested that his African colleagues were being arrogant,
intolerant and hypocritical on the recent appointment in the US
branch of the church of Dr Gene Robinson, the first openly gay bishop.
The appointment of Dr Robinson as Bishop of New Hampshire earlier
this year was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back and
brought the issue of gays in the church's leadership to the top of
the Anglican agenda again.
This
and the earlier aborted appointment of Jeffrey John as Bishop of Reading
were seen as issues that could split the 70 million-strong worldwide
Anglican Communion. Kenya's primate, Archbishop Benjamin Nzimbi,
said last weekend that those called to the church's leadership should
not be involved in homosexuality and urged Dr Robinson to resign from
his position of leadership.
Nigeria's
Archbishop Peter Akinola had led the criticism of Bishop Robinson's
appointment in August, describing it as "a satanic attack on
God's church". Said Archbishop Ndungane in an article published
in the left-leaning British newspaper, the Guardian: "It is very
arrogant to assume that the people in America do not know what they
are doing." He accused his colleagues such as Nzimbi and Akinola
of being hypocritical and warned against such an attitude in the
run-up
to the London meeting. "There is a woman waiting to be stoned
to death for adultery in Nigeria and yet we are not hearing any fuss
about it from the leadership of the church there," he said.
He
continued: "It is no secret
that there are gay clergy and there are gay bishops, and the institutional
church seems to be turning a blind
eye when we should be encouraging honesty. If Gene Robinson
had kept quiet there would have been no issue." Archbishop Ndungane
said there were other issues that should be priorities for the Anglican
Church such as world hunger, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict and
the HIV/Aids pandemic. An appointment in one part of the church should
not concern leaders in another part of the church, he said.
Archbishop
Ndungane further told the BBC in an interview that the equally divisive
subject of women priests and that of divorce was treated differently
by various Anglican communions and the issue of homosexuality should,
therefore, be no different. "Each of the autonomous churches
within the Anglican Church has its own structures. We have to respect
these structures whether we agree with them or not," he said.
"If the church in the US wants to do its thing, then that's
its business."
Archbishop
Ndungane also warned against the selective use of Bible passages
in the debate on homosexuality, adding that in the past quotes from
the Bible had been used to defend slavery and apartheid. The South
African primate's views are similar to those of his predecessor, Nobel
Prize winner Archbishop Desmond Tutu. Ndungane succeeded Desmond
Tutu eight years ago as leader of two million worshippers in the oldest
province in Africa, covering eight countries.
In a
TV interview in Soweto last month, Tutu said that Robinson's sexual
orientation did not make a difference. "In our Church here
in South Africa, that doesn't make a difference. We just say that,
at the moment, we believe that they should remain celibate and we
don't see what the fuss is about."
Tutu's
Kenyan brethren, who have in the past looked up to him as an important
figure both as a clergyman and a political inspiration, were unsure
how to behave towards him when he came to Kenya shortly after making
this statement. They opted to generally ignore his remarks. However,
Tutu was just being consistent in his message. In 1995 he wrote to
Anglicans (or Episcopalians) in California, USA, where he said: "It
is sad indeed that we as a church have more often than not turned
our back on a significant portion of God's people on the basis of
their sexual orientation. We have inflicted on gay and lesbian people
the tremendous pain of having to live a lie or to face brutal rejection
if they dared to reveal their true selves. But oppression cuts both
ways. Behind our 'safe' barriers of self-righteousness, we deprive
ourselves of the rich giftedness that lesbian and gay people have
to contribute to the whole body of Christ."
On the
issue of homosexuality, the current South African primate is able
to speak with particular authority, having chaired a committee of
60 bishops at the last Lambeth conference, five years ago, which looked
into the issue of human sexuality. The committee's report was overruled
at the conference by other hardline bishops from Africa, Asia and
South America as well as British evangelicals. The question this time
around is whether his views will carry any weight with his colleagues
and whether he will be one of those that Anglicans of the future will
thank for having kept the Communion together during a difficult time.
If this year's Lambeth talks are held in the spirit of rational and
reflective thinking, instead of a stormy confrontational atmosphere,
it may be interesting to see what the Anglican Communion looks like
at the end of the debate. Other faith groups, Christian and otherwise
- having followed various arguments among the Anglicans over the years
- feel that in the end they will reach a compromise to stop a break
up of the church.
News24.com
(South Africa)
http://www.news24.com/News24/World/News/0,,2-10-1462_1439763,00.html
3 November
2003
11
Kenya
church makes first break from USA Anglicans for consecrating
gay bishop
Nairobi
- The Kenyan Anglican church on Monday severed ties with
its US counterpart over the consecration
of a gay bishop, as the first split emerged among 70 million
faithful
over the controversial move. The decision to consecrate Gene
Robinson also provoked furore in Nigeria, where the spiritual
leaders of
50 million Anglicans in the developing world announced they
were breaking off ties with the US church because the appointment
violated biblical teaching.
"The overwhelming majority of the Primates
of the Global South cannot and will not recognise the office or
ministry of Canon Gene Robinson as a bishop," said Right Reverend
Peter Akinola, Archbishop of Abuja and leader of the Nigerian Anglican
community. Akinola's statement was issued "for and on behalf
of the working committee for the Primates of the Global South." 'Because
it is a sin' In Nairobi, Eldoret Diocese Bishop Thomas Kogo,
who said he was speaking on behalf of the Kenyan Anglican
establishment,
said: "As a church, we are not going to support
homosexuality in the church, primarily because it
is a sin."
"And on
that note, we have broken our links with the US Episcopal Church," said
Kogo, adding that he was speaking on behalf of the Kenyan
Anglican establishment. He said the decision had already
been made and that
Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams - the worldwide
head of the Anglican church - had been informed. He added
that the move
would be formalised at a meeting of Kenyan Anglican bishops
in two weeks.
"It is clear that those who have consecrated Gene
Robinson have acted in good faith on their understanding of what
the constitution of the American church permits," Williams
continued. "But the effects of this upon the ministry and
witness of the overwhelming majority of Anglicans particularly
in the non-western world have to be confronted with honesty." "We
need now to work very hard to giving new substance to
this, and to pray for wisdom, patience and courage as
we move forward."
In
Australia one senior church leader
said that Robinson would not be recognised as a bishop
in much of the world, despite
his consecration
by the US Episcopalian Church. Sydney's Archbishop
Peter Jensen said the US church had succumbed to the "pervasive culture
of permissiveness".
"Western culture is very individualistic,
it's greedy and it's sexually permissive," Jensen
said. "The
church sometimes buckles under this and I'm afraid it has in this
particular case. "The new bishop is not going to be a bishop
in much of the world," Jensen said. "He's
not going to be recognised. This is opposed to God's
word."
In Britain, 'Changing
Attitude', which describes itself as "a network
of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered and straight" church
members, said Bishop Robinson would "inspire" gays
and lesbians with new confidence in the church.
http://www.mask.org.za/SECTIONS/AfricaPerCountry/ABC/kenya/Kenya_26.htm
June
3, 2004
12
Kenya health minister attacks ex-attorney general over his stand on
abortion and gays
According to a report in the East African Standard
Health Minister Charity Ngilu has criticised former Attorney-General
and minister for Constitutional Affairs Mr Charles Njonjo for his
stand on abortion and homosexual rights. According to the report
Ngilu says that the youth in Kenya were in dire need of stewardship.
She stressed that the Government was
working
tirelessly to bring about behavioural change in order to check
the spread of HIV/Aids and reduce unwanted pregnancies.
On Sunday, Njonjo, a prominent member of the Anglican Church of
Kenya, was quoted as openly supporting abortion and homosexuality. " When
I was the Attorney General, I would never prosecute those who carried
out abortion or those who went for it. I equally would never
waste time persecuting gays. I respect their rights," he
was quoted as saying.
And in a sharp reaction that misquotes and corrupts Njonjo's words,
Ngilu said: "I am appalled that a man of Njonjo's standing could
portray abortion so simplistically and as though it is an alternative
to contraception. I am equally unhappy that he went further to tell
young Kenyans that homosexuality is an opinion".
The minister said the struggle to safeguard the moral fabric of
the nation by the churches should be shared by opinion leaders
and role
models in the society. "
Mr Njonjo has failed this test and young Kenyans should not compromise
the gains made so far by the Government," she said.
Ngilu advised Kenyans to practice sexual abstinence, have sex only
in marriage and with one partner or use condoms correctly to prevent
Aids and unwanted pregnancies.
Meanwhile, the current Attorney-General Mr Amos Wako has warned
that abortion or attempts to procure it remain illegal in Kenya
and therefore
punishable. He gave a similar warning regarding homosexuality.
"
I want to assure the general public that abortion, attempts to procure
it, unnatural offences and attempts to commit unnatural offences,
otherwise known as homosexuality, are criminal offences under the
law," he said in a statement.
The
East African Standard (Nairobi)
January
19, 2005
13
Bernard Muiru Convicted of Sodomy-- Jailed for 21 Years
by Beatrice Obwocha
Three teenage boys in Njoro eagerly looked forward
to initiation, a ritual that would usher them to adulthood. They were enthusiastic that finally they would no longer be regarded
as boys but men. They were ready to go through all rituals that would
usher them into the new stage in their lives.
On December 4, last year, the boys, all cousins, were circumcised
at Piave farm in Njoro. The father of two of the boys, who is a prison warder, appointed
one of the villagers to counsel and take care of the boys, two aged
16 and one 14.
He selected 21-year-old Bernard Kamau Muiru whom he knew as a staunch
Christian and a youth leader at a local church. "
I knew my son and nephews were safe in his hands. This is because
I knew him as a Christian. I knew that he would counsel them well
to become responsible adults and would not beat or harass them," he
says. He says he trusted Muiru as they worshipped in the same church
and had known him for over five years. But that was not to be.
After the initiation, the boys were taken to a secluded hut at their
father's homestead where they were to stay for eight days under the
care of Muiru. Muiru took good care of the boys for the first six days, but on the
seventh day, he committed a horrific act that would remain embedded
in the minds of the three innocent young boys forever.
He sodomised them after deceiving them that it was part of the
rituals initiates undergo in order to become men. "
He told us that the act signified that one graduated from childhood
to adulthood," said one of the 16-year-olds. The boy said
they did not doubt Muiru because they knew him as a Christian and
he had been selected to be their counsellor. Their father and uncle,
they said, could not have gone wrong in choosing Muiru.
On the night of December 12, at 2.30am, their counsellor woke them
up and told them it was time to go through the ritual. He told
them to strip and bend over
the bedpost. "
We did not know how to do it so he showed us. He told us not to shout if there
was any pain because men do not scream or shout," one of the boys said. They were sodomised in turn for about 15 minutes and then Muiru told them that
they had become men. He asked them to go back to sleep. "
It was very painful and one of us could not even pass stool the following day," one
of them said. The boys did not inform anyone, but on December 13, their last
day in the house, the truth came out in the open. Two boys, Peter Macharia
and Samuel Kamau, both aged 18 and who had undergone
initiation the previous year, visited them. Macharia said the trio shared the
experiences of the past seven days. Muiru was not there at the time.
"
They told us that they had been sodomised by their counsellor who told them it
was part of the rituals. We were shocked as we did not undergo the ritual," he
added.
He says they promised the initiates that they would ask older men whether the
act was part of the ritual. Macharia and Kamau approached one of the boys'
uncles, who was shocked by the news. "
I had known him for close to five years and we worshipped in the same church.
It was hard to believe that he could do such a thing," he said.
He visited the boys and told them there were no such ritual. He told them that
Muiru had taken advantage of them and sodomised them. "
They were shocked to hear that and two of them actually broke into tears. It
was about 10am and I waited until around 1pm when Muiru came. He entered the
hut and I locked it from outside and called the police," he says. He called the boys' father and informed him of the incident. The whole village
got wind of the incident and flocked the home. "
Everybody was shocked as they all knew Muiru as a Christian. Some started demanding
that we stone him to death, but I refused and told them we should call the police," he
said.
Muiru was arrested and the initiates were taken to Njoro Health Centre, where
a doctor confirmed that they had been sodomised.
They were treated and discharged.
On December 20, 2004, Muiru was charged before a Nakuru court with three counts
of sodomy. He pleaded guilty and was jailed for 21 years.
Senior Principal Magistrate Gilbert Mutembei jailed him for seven years on each
count and ordered the sentences run concurrently. The prosecutor, Inspector George
Mukonesi, called for a stiffer sentence.
Mukonesi said the act committed by Muiru was unimaginable as he took advantage
of young innocent boys and had ruined their lives.
"
The sentence was lenient but all the same, he will be put away for sometime.
I hope he will never sodomise other boys," their father said.
Behind the Mask
http://www.mask.org.za/SECTIONS/AfricaPerCountry/ABC/kenya/Kenya_32.htm
March
24, 2005
14
Men
Recognised as Rape Victims
by Mwangi Githahu
For the first time in Kenya's legal history men and
boys could be recognised as legitimate victims of rape. Until now,
Kenya's laws have only recognised women
and girls as victims of rape.
This un-equal situation could be about to come to an end if Nominated MP Njoki
Ndungu gets her way and manages to steer her proposed Sexual Offences Bill through
parliament.
Ms Ndungu who sits on the government benches and whose many interests include
women and youth matters, has been working on the Sexual Offences Bill for the
best part of the last two years in parliament. During this time she has had to
fight prejudice and ignorance from critics and others, who misunderstood some
of the things the Bill will be pushing for. The proposed piece of legislation is seen as timely now because in Kenya recently,
there has been a shocking rise in reports of incest, rape and other sexual offences
over the past few years.
Over two and a half months since the beginning of the year, hardly has a day
gone by without a media report about rape or defilement, and many victims are
babies. More than 32 cases of rape have been reported in newspapers so far this year.
Twelve victims were minors, two of them aged four. Five were boys aged between
five and nine years, and seven were teenage girls.
Ms Ndungu's is a crusade to stop this appalling trend in sex abuse. She wants
to revolutionise the way sexual offences are classified and handled. She wants
the public to understand that it is not just girls and women who can be victims;
the law must recognise that boys and men too are abused.
This April, Ms Ndung'u will table the Sexual Offences Bill and hopes it will
be law by the end of the year. Speaking to this correspondent recently, Ms Ndung'u
said she has the support
of the Attorney-General's office. As the bill is a non-political and non-partisan
issue, Ms Ndung'u expects the support of the majority in the House. She has been
quietly lobbying her colleagues
and helping fellow MPs to understand the issues in the proposed law, which was
quickly demonised as the "Castration Bill" when first touted.
Ms Ndung'u explained that when she first talked about the proposed Bill, she
mentioned "castration" and her intentions were widely misinterpreted. "I
was talking about chemical and not physical castration". She explained: "Chemical
castration is very effective for treating disorder in men who cannot control
their sexual urges, especially against children".
Ms Ndung'u said chemical castration had proven quite effective in the US state
of Florida. She explained that chemical castration is a term used to describe
treatment with a drug called Depo-Provera that, when given to men, acts on the
brain to inhibit
hormones that stimulate the testicles to produce testosterone.
Depo-Provera is a common birth control pill and contains a synthetic version
of the female hormone progesterone. Advocates of chemical castration hope thatinjections of Depo-Provera would prevent sexual perverts from molesting children
in particular.
Asked if the majority of her colleagues, who are men, might see the proposed
Bill as hostile to them, Ms Ndung'u, a lawyer by profession, said: "The
Sexual Offences Bill will introduce a proper definition of rape and protect boys
and men as well as girls and women." Said added: "It is not a man-hating
bill at all. We are trying to protect men too by recognising that they can be
raped. The Bill is about protecting the
whole society, both male and female."
" There are increasing cases of rape committed during car-jackings, hijackings,
muggings and violent robberies in homes. These will be classified as 'aggravated
rape'."
Ms Ndung'u advocates harsh minimum sentence to deter rapists and other sexual
offenders. The one-time state counsel explained: "Although there are laws
laid down for certain offences, that latitude given to magistrates is being misused.
So
the introduction of a minimum punishment for a first offender, a second offender,
those who have defiled children, etc, would be critical.
" I want to see criminals charged with sexual offences imprisoned
for a long time. I have proposed the minimal sentence for first offenders be
15 years
and more
for repetitive rapists. I have proposed that criminals who prey on children,
old women and the disabled get a minimum 30 years in jail."
In addition, Ms Ndung'u wants paedophiles (those who prey on children) to be
publicly noted once they are released from jail "so that those living in
the same area would know and act accordingly to protect their children".
The legislator wants to drop the requirement that victims of rape first report
to the police. "I want to make it possible for victims to go straight to
hospital and seek treatment against any sexually transmitted infections, especially
HIV/Aids. The Bill will propose that the burden of proof be shifted from the
victim to the perpetrator. I want to introduce free compulsory treatment and
counselling services for rape victims."
The
East African Standard (Nairobi)
April 26, 2005
15
United
Nations Human Rights Committee
Opposes Kenyan Homosexuality Criminal Law
The United Nations Human Rights Committee
(UNHRC) has urged the government to revoke the law criminalising
homosexuality.
The committee, chaired by Ms Christine Chanete, said it was inconsistent with
the UN covenant's non-discrimination clauses for the government to consider homosexuality
an unnatural act.
Section 162 of the Kenyan Penal Code criminalises homosexuality as an unnatural
act, and the offence is punishable with a jail sentence of up to 14 years.
The committee's proposal is contained in its recommendations on a human rights
report submitted by the government to the United Nations last month.
Submitting the report, Attorney-General Amos Wako told the committee that the
homosexuality movement appeared to be towards tolerance.
"While homosexuality is not an issue per se, all the tribes and customs
of the country, and churches abhor the practice," he
said.
A committee member, Mr. Roman Wieruszewski, expressed concern that Kenya considered
homosexuality an unnatural act and had enacted laws to that effect.
New
York Times
May 11, 2005
16
AIDS Now Compels Africa to Challenge Widows' 'Cleansing'--(Malawi,
Zambia, Kenya)
by Sharon LaFrainieremchinji, Malawi
In
the hours after James Mbewe was laid to rest three years ago,
in an unmarked grave not far from
here, his 23-year-old wife, Fanny, neither mourned him nor accepted
visits from sympathizers. Instead, she hid in his sister's hut,
hoping that the rest of her in-laws would not find her.
But they hunted her down, she said, and insisted that if she refused
to exorcise her dead husband's spirit, she would be blamed every
time a villager died. So she put her two small children to bed
and then forced herself to have sex with James'